Psychology of Lying: How to Catch a Liar
Do you suspect your partner of cheating? Perhaps you question whether they are spinning stories to avoid being caught out. Trust is one of the most important foundations of a relationship, and it can be a lonely and frustrating time when you doubt that trust.
If you are living with suspicion of your partner’s behaviour but you don’t want to risk your relationship by making accusations, there are several ways to decipher whether they are telling the truth or not. Infidelity Investigators shares some common warning signals to look out for and our tips for how to tell someone is lying.
Body Language of Liars
Some of the most common tell-tale signs of dishonesty are evident through body language. You can pick up on whether your partner is lying or about to tell a lie by paying attention to actions such as:
- Their head suddenly jerks, tilts or retracts
- Their breathing becomes fast or shallow
- Their voice becomes cracked or speech becomes stuttered or faster than usual
- They start shaking or fidgeting
- They are unable to look you in the eye
- They start shuffling their feet
- They start blinking less, or more rapidly
- They hesitate to respond
- They cover their mouth.
If your partner is conveying one or more of these signals, they may be subconsciously exposing their dishonesty through their body language.
Too Much Information
If you ask your partner why you saw their car outside your attractive single neighbour’s home and they respond with an overly elaborate narrative of an alibi, there is a likely chance that they are telling porkies. Overcompensating and providing an unnecessary amount of detail when giving an explanation of their whereabouts or behaviour is a red flag. They may also repeat themselves as a way to convince you to believe their story, or simply out of discomfort and panic.
Using the Volatile Conundrum Technique to Uncover a Liar
If you want to catch your partner in the middle of a lie, you may have to dabble in a little dishonesty yourself by asking a question with the purpose of uncovering a lie or confirming their innocence. The volatile conundrum technique places your partner in a position where they have to make snap decisions. This technique enables you to test your partner’s honesty without openly accusing them of lying.
If your husband claims he had a business meeting on the other side of town that caused him to be late home from work, you might present a volatile conundrum to see whether or not he is lying about his whereabouts. For example, you could say that you heard on the news that there was a terrible accident on the highway and no one could get through for hours, implying that he would still be stuck in traffic if he was in fact in a meeting on the other side of town.
Now your husband is faced with a conundrum. If he confirms your story and says that he saw the accident and chose another route home, you know he is lying. The longer he hesitates to answer, the more likely it is that he is telling a lie. If he says he saw no accident, it is likely that he is telling the truth, and you can easily escape his suspicions of your question by saying you must have misheard the news.
Do you suspect your partner of having an affair? Are you tired of living with lies and denial? Contact us today to uncover the facts and reveal the truth.